Well we all tried this Thanksgiving to keep busy and get through the day.
Our efforts at the Community Dinner I hope were not in vain - very disappointing crowd but those that came were so very thankful - I guess that is what it is all about.
Dana, Rob, Nan, Kathy, Joe and Bato and Chris were there - the rest of our family helped but as always it is not the same - nothing is the same anymore.
Next year we will have the new baby and go back to a traditional Thanksgiving - it still wont be the same but what a wonderful gift our family will have with a new baby - Please Richie tell the Baby that he/she is so very loved already and he/she will hear all about their Uncle Richie who touched so many hearts.
Please give me a little extra help these next few weeks - I am lost without hearing/seeing and laughing with you. Yes I try and am a good actress but my heart is unfixable.
Dana needs you also and your Dad - between you and Pop, send us some strength to go on without you.
Tuesday we will find out whether we will have a boy or girl - it doesnt matter at all - this is a gift from God that will be spoiled and loved by this wonderful, crazy family.
Another Holiday to Face Without You / Jane McCarthy (Mom)
Oh Richie how you made me laugh! My heart is so very broken - each holiday is a reminder that our family is not complete. Yes we try and do what we are supposed to do but nothing feels or is the same without you with us.
This holiday we will be all in different directions not because we chose to but circumstances but as we all sit around wherever we are, our thoughts will go to our empty chair and heart.
Dana, Rob, Nan and I along with Kathy and Joe and good friends will once again be at St. Anthonys - it helps keep our minds somewhat occupied but reality will as it always does sit in when I dont see your face or get one of your crazy phone calls.
I know one day we will be together and I will once again have my heart whole but until then, watch over us all and keep us in your prayers that we can endure this ungodly pain without you.
Keep a watch over Brad's family tomorrow as they turn yet another milestone on the year anniversary tomorrow that their hearts were forever broken.
almost veterans day / Holly Mccarhy (proud cousin )Read >>
almost veterans day / Holly Mccarhy (proud cousin ) hey rich just wanted to say that today i talked about u to the kids in school for veterans day u are so remembered!!!! thank u for what u did this picture was a week before u sent me as u said "i was looking good haha.." thank u to all the soldiers past present and future haha i did mention u had a pet penguin not the whole story but some of it haha love ya keep dana and aunt jane safe and in your prayers everyday..and rob and nan and everyone.. Close
Happy Halloween / Jane McCarthy (Mom)
Well Richie I still cant accept you are gone. I tried to stay home last night and enjoy the little children in their costumes. But once home my head was filled of memories of dressing you and Dana for Halloween so many years and how we laughed when you were Erkel or Eva Gabor.
I find more and more how alike we both are - anything for a laugh.
So I decided to "get some therapy" and go shopping and not be there when the children came - hoping to soften the pain for a little.
Maybe next year when we have our own baby to dress up the spirit of the season will fulfill us once again and we will remember all those special times and how happy we were.
I hope you watching all the little children and remembering how loved you are and how many hearts you touched.
Happy Birthday / Dana (sister)
Well, another birthday is almost over and it just gets harder and harder. I thought about you all day today, but that really doesn't distinguish it from any other day. I did get the signs you sent. Rob and I were just walking in the house and he told me to look up, it was the clearest sky with the most stars I have ever seen, but I would expect no less on your birthday! I'm sure you and Brad have been partying all day.
Today has been so hard. I miss you so much Richie. I wish you were here to see everything that has been going on and all that has changed in a year. God how much I wish I could see your face. If I close my eyes, I can still see you and hear your voice. I miss you so much Richie.
Well, of course the beefsteak was a huge hit! I was talking to mom today and we both said the same thing, we just still can't believe you aren't here. Pretty soon, it will be your birthday, 27! I still can't believe it. Rich, I miss you so much! This really does just get harder and harder each day. I was talking to someone today about the day I found out that you died and it just kinda all came back to me. I miss you rich.
FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO WERE THERE IN SPIRIT BUT COULDNT ATTEND THE MEMORIAL BEEFSTEAK IN CELEBRATION OF RICHIE AND BRAD'S LIVES, PLEASE CLICK GO TO THE HYPERLINK BELOW TO SEE THE VIDEO WHICH WAS SHOWN - HAVE YOUR TISSUES HANDY.
THIS IS YOURS AND BRADS NIGHT!! / STEVE AND MAUREEN (BRAD'S PARENTS )Read >>
THIS IS YOURS AND BRADS NIGHT!! / STEVE AND MAUREEN (BRAD'S PARENTS )
WELL RICHIE....
THE "NIGHT" HAS FINALLY ARRIVED .. AND IF YOUR MOM AND I DONT DRIVE THE GIRLS ABSOLUTELY CRAZY .... ALL WILL GO WELL. YOU AND BRAD HAVE TO BE SO PROUD. DO YOU TWO POSSIBLY KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLES LIVES THAT YOU HAVE TOUCHED. WE HAVE A GREAT COMMUNITY, WONDERFUL FAMILY AND THE ONLY THING THAT WE ARE ALL MISSING ARE ..... YOU AND BRAD.
WE WILL NEED YOU TWO ... TO HELP US THROUGH THIS NIGHT. IT IS SO HARD - BUT IT IS IMPORTANT. WE WONT EVER LET PEOPLE FORGET YOU TWO BOYS. NEVER !!
ENJOY THE NIGHT ....... BLESS US WITH "TONS OF STARS" ..... AND ENJOY THE BEST SEATS IN THE HOUSE !!
Well I am sure you and Brad can see how many lives you touched and how many people love and miss you - the Beefsteak is SOLD OUT! What a tribute to you both.
Knowing how you much you loved a party, we will try and celebrate your lives the best we McCarthy/Febbi/Depascales know how. I am sure you will be watching us with your hula skirt on singing along on the microphone from Heaven.
Please you and Brad gives us a sign that you are with us tonight.
Each day is filled with pain without you boys but the short time we had you filled our heart with love that will never die.
On September 29, 2006 at 7 p.m., there will be a Memorial Beefsteak Dinner in memory of Richie and Brad. Tickets are $50 and include music by Danny C and a beefsteak. We have already passed the 400 mark and rising.
Hope to see all of you whose life's were touched by these two special boys. Their memory will live on through the support of all of you and their memorial funds.
missing you / Dana (sister)
Hey Richie. Well, first, sorry I didnt go to the dinner last night, I really wasn't feeling well. Another one of your friends wrote to me yesterday. It is so nice to hear from all of your friends. They always have such wonderful things to say about you. But, then again, you were quite an unbelieveable person. I had a bit of a rough morning today, not sure why. Usually it doens't have to be triggered by any one thing. I guess I was just thinking about all the things I could have wanted for my birthday, and of course, you were the only thing that mattered. I would give anything to have you back, even for a second. I just really miss you so much Rich. So I am sure you saw that they will be giving a scholarship in your name -- imagine that!! Pretty incredible. I know you would be so happy to see everything that is being done in your name. We will be having the dinner in 2 weeks. God I wish you and Brad could see it. I know you will both be there. Well, just wanted to stop in and tell you I love you. PS = thanks for the yellow roses. Love you always. Close
Your Spirit Lives On / Jane McCarthy (Mother)
Dear Richie
Thanks to my friend Francine and her family, I attended a benefit dinner this evening for her brother who she lost suddenly at the age of 31. As we did, they established a fund in his memory, Carl Pascheria.
Tonight at the dinner they presented six $1,000 scholarships in memory of different people who lost their life - one was given in your name. So Richie, next graduating year one student will receive a scholarship in your name through the generosity of Carl's fund.
As his Mom and I spoke tonite, we have to keep your spirit alive and it helps us to try and get through each day. Mrs. Pascheria told me tonite that it seems worse now four years later - so I am not crazy, I dont think this intense void and pain will every go away. As she said, we still have work to do here on this earth, but one day Richie I will join you and see that smile again.
So for now, Dana, your father and I are trying our best but we need to feel you around us and know that you are watching.
Rest well Richie - Love you with all my heart
Mom
P.S. - Please watch over your sister especially now. Close
Need a little extra help / Jane McCarthy (Mother)
Oh Richie today is a hard one - no rhyme or reason why some days are so much harder -not that any are good but some are worse. Maybe it is a song that reminds me of you or passing by one of your friends - who knows.
Keep us all in your prayers - life without you is unbearable - the sun doesnt shine the same nor does the moon. I look up in the sky and all I see or want to see is you but nothing.
Keep an eye on Dana - her birthday is next week - give her a special gift.
The dinner will be approaching soon and we hard from one of your soldier buddies that he will be joining us - how special for us.
Well rest well Richie - you have a lot of work ahead of you keeping us all straight.
Love you always / Dana (sister)
Just thinking of you as usual and had to let you know. Lately I have really be feeling you all around me. You would think that would make this easier, but it hasn't. Each day without you is like some cruel joke. It just doesn't seem like this could be real. How can you possibly be gone? I still don't get it at all.
Rob and I were laughing the other day when mom was up about christmas time and the "jesus was born today song". Knowing that I am not going to have anymore memories like that is so hard to deal with.
Pretty soon we will have the dinner for you and Brad. The DePascale family misses Brad so much, just like we miss you. It is so hard to watch two families who are so good and so loving be in so much pain. We all miss you both so much. The dinner will be a night to remember. I know some of your friends won't be able to come because of the wedding that night, but I know everyone will be there in their hearts.
I love you Richie and miss you so much. Watch over all of us please. Close
Dear Richie, I try not to come on this site to much because i just cant accept this...Me mom and tom were watching some home videos tonight and my first birthday appeared....I was to young to make a wish so u did it for me what was it by the way? so far all my prays i asked u to help me out with have come true.....you always stood up for me and never left my side.. lol we had so many good talks and our myspace days lol..haha had to throw that one in there. But just wanted to thank u for all u did for this country and showing us true patriotism..Love u always and please watch over danarob and aunt Jane..and the rest of the "mccarthy clan" and brads family
MISSING YOU AND BRAD SO MUCH !! / STEVE AND MAUREEN (FAMILY FRIENDS )Read >>
MISSING YOU AND BRAD SO MUCH !! / STEVE AND MAUREEN (FAMILY FRIENDS )
RICHIE
WE GET TO SEE YOUR MOM - DAY IN AND DAY OUT .... AND WE SPEAK TO DANA ALL THE TIME ..... THE PAIN THAT THEY SHARE IS THE SAME THAT WE ALL SHARE WITHOUT BRAD. FOR SOME REASON RICHIE, WE ALL GATHER SOME PEACE FROM THE FEELING THAT YOU TWO ARE BOTH TOGETHER. YOUR LIVES WITH ALL OF US ENDED WITHIN MONTHS OF EACH OTHER --- TWO GREAT, LOVING AND LOYAL "KIDS" TAKEN FROM ALL OF US WAY TOO SOON.
WE MISS YOU TERRIBLY ..... THEIR IS NO GREATER PAIN - THAN TO LIVE THIS LIFE WITHOUT YOU TWO. NONE. YOU HAVE TO STAY WITH US ... HELP US FIGURE OUT - HOW TO COPE WITH EACH DAY. IT IS SO HARD. JUST ALWAYS KNOW THAT YOU AND BRAD TRULY BLESSED OUR LIVES - FOR THE SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME THAT YOU WERE WITH US ALL.
TRY AND FIND A WAY TO "LET US FEEL YOUR PRESENCE" THE NIGHT OF THE BEEFSTEAK. IT IS A GREAT WAY FOR EVERYONE TO GET TOGETHER AND .... REMEMBER AND LAUGH ABOUT YOU AND BRAD.
Another Holiday Without You / Jane McCarthy (Mother)
Well Richie another holiday without you in our lives. Nothing will ever be the same.
I will say a prayer at Church this morning that you and Brad will watch over our special families. Unless one was part of our families, you can never know how special it was/is. As Maureen and I say everyday, this is just not right - God made a big mistake this time.
I am sure the gang will drop by today and the "Richie" stories will begin - what an impact you made in the short time here.
Give Pop a hug for me and we will all be together soon.
God this is so very hard / Jane McCarthy (Mother)
Richie
Please tell me when I will wake up from this nightmare. I was driving yesterday and I had such a hard time focusing - I kept thinking this is all just a bad dream and I would wake up and you would be there.
It has been over a year now and I still cant accept the fact that you are gone - I wait for the day when I will see you again.
You and Brad have worked your magic but we need you both to continue to make sure all goes well.
Know that I love you and just cant stand it without you here - our lives are so very empty.
Miss you / Dana (sister)
Hey Richie. I just wanted to let you know I was thinking of you, like that is anything new!! We had a packed weekend. Steven DePascale's graduation party was saturday -- I'm sure you and Brad already knew that. I saw someone there that kept reminding me of you. Mom and I were sitting at the table and remembering how you used to dance, and how you lit up a room. That is what we miss so much richie. I miss watching you and your love for life. This hurts so much. You would think it might start to get better, but it doesnt. I think we have all become experts at hiding our pain a little, that way people don't think we are crazy, but it hurts worse that the day you died (I still can't get over saying that -- you died?? ). I'm hoping you can pay a little extra attention to us over the next few months and make sure everything goes ok. The beefsteak is approaching very quickly. Im sure you and Brad are loving all this attention and love seeing your pictures plastered all over town!! The dinner will be wonderful but also very hard. It seems anything we do without you is so hard.
I love you so much richie and miss you. Say hi to Camry! Close
Camry joins you / Matt Febbi (Father)
Hey buddy, as you already know last friday night I had to put you dog Camry to sleep. I have come to hate friday's.Just before she left us I told her that I loved you and her and asked her to find you. And then stay with you and boomer and the so many of both families and friends. I can only imagin you, pop pop Febbi singing lazy mary. If only I could be there with you. I love you and miss your late night calls Dad Close
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